So in true late fashion, Lauryn Hill has finally responded to Monday’s viral video of her and Rohan Marley‘s daughter, Selah, sharing details of her childhood trauma, pain and experiences.
Man….Lauryn took four days to get her thoughts together to write us a book that we shall review, analyze and discuss.
I want to preface by stating that Lauryn Hill is my favorite female artist of all time and The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill is also my favorite album of all time. If you know me, you know this as fact!
That aside….TALENT AND CHARACTER ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS!
Is Lauryn Hill A Toxic Mother?
I’ll give you my opinion – because this is my blog! So I’ll make it easier for you before you read Lauryn’s dissertation.
Lauryn Hill is a toxic and angry mother who is frustrated by her life’s journey. She is the mother of six children by two fathers. She is still dealing with the backlash of very public relationships with Wyclef and Rohan. She did a bid in jail (and if you’ve ever spent even a night in jail – being imprisoned is a traumatic experience). She is not generating the income as an artist of her caliber. Her children may have been raised in love – but not necessarily by her loving hands. And just like many of us, LAURYN HILL HAS A LOT OF ISSUES! We joke about about her tardiness but now we’ve gotten an inside into the madness of her life!
VIDEO: Lauryn Hill & Rohan Marley’s daughter Selah Speaks on Family Trauma
In Lauryn’s very long response, she has unequivocally stated that this is her child, and as a mother, she can raise her children however she sees fit because THEY ARE HER KIDS! A good celebrity mother protects her children from the monsters in the real world and does everything possible to raise them away from the terrors of what people believe is a glamorous life. She basically states she is doing the best she can, with all of the scrutiny and added pressure. She is not just any mother, she is THE LAURYN HILL!
But what I really got out of Lauryn’s long diatribe against those questioning her parenting skills is that she doesn’t give AF about how we feel about the way she parents her kids. Go check your mama and your grandmama and great mama before you come check me!
Read Lauryn Hill’s Lengthy Response To Viral Video Posted By Daughter Selah…
LISTEN: Ep. 5: “Letting Go Of Toxic People…Including Your Family!”
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Ep. 38: “A Girl Chat on Mental Health and Motherhood” with Shanna Lynch
Does Lauryn even care about what her own child has said about her parenting?
“She would spank us to no avail,” Selah said. “She was just very angry. So, so, so, so, so, so angry. She was literally not easy to talk to and then half the time we didn’t live with her. I lived with my grandparents half the time… It’s crazy, I’m playing this trauma back in my head as I speak to you.” She explained that her mom would order one of the kids to get a belt and then hold both hands up so they were hanging, “as she beat us. Literally, just like that.”after her daughter Selah
Rohan Marley’s Fatherly Response To Daughter Selah Made Me Sad.
There is a clear difference between discipline and abuse. However, Lauryn does not believe she has abused her children, for whopping ass is a rite of passage for black children. Right? WRONG!!! But what happens when her own child is calling her out to acknowledge her behavior?
In typical black mother fashion, Lauryn has deflected her bad parental behavior as doing the best she can to protect her kids from the streets. But who protects Lauryn’s kids from Lauryn?
A mother beating a child out of sheer frustration, disappointment and anger is not discipline. We see so many women viciously beat their children for reasons other than the wrong they claimed the child has committed.
Black Mothers And Their Unaddressed Mental Health Issues
After reading and re-reading and re-reading Lauryn’s post, you know what I didn’t get from Lauryn’s message? An apology!
That’s a major issue with many black mothers. Their ego make them believe they are always right and could never be corrected by their children.
We have so many unaddressed mental health issues and unhealed trauma in our black community and most of these issues are trapped in our women.
I know you may have personally survived a traumatic childhood but could it have been better if your abusive parent used a different method of discipline than their fists or weapons? We need to acknowledge our own mental slavery as a community, and finally accept that slave beating your child in 2020 is NOT a healthy form of correction.
I am not bashing Lauryn, I truly sympathize with her. I see my mother in her response. They are so broken that they’ve become desensitized to pain. Pain that they can’t even see or refuse to acknowledge in their children because this pain is a normal way of life.
READ: I Don’t Hate My Mother, I Just Prefer To Stay Away From Her!
For many black mothers, they are the ones who inflict the most pain on their children. They say they’re doing it out of love because they’re preparing you for the real world. It’s a sick and twisted way of parenting. However, when we #raisetherug, it’s really just a perpetuation of generational trauma and the refusal to get mental help.
Don’t be fooled by the pictures with smiles and the social media posts that present wholesome parenting and healthy relationships.
It’s time that we have a serious mental health intervention with the many mothers in our lives, especially those who honestly and wholeheartedly believe that nothing is wrong with them and their behavior.
So who’s gonna help Lauryn Hill?
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